I had a gig today where I played an older person and it made me think of my father… here is something I had on my mind. I had a mentor that one day said he was trying to be relevant and it never hit him just how relevant he was. Wisdom needs to be appreciated especially by those who have it and don’t even realize it.
Intelligent Happiness is knowing how to be happy in our world.
An easy trick to make you the better person in a situation where you are insulted.
Something to think about literally!
Ask yourself this:
1) How can Life get any better than it is at this moment? In regards to Relationship, Work, or any area that is important to you!
2) What are the possibilities of achieving these aspirations and more importantly will these indeed make you happy?
3) What would it take to meet these new goals? What healthy habits will I have to put in place to move into the position I see as making me happy?
Words, words, words, words, its what you say, read, listen to and watch all create the environment you live.
Staying on the positive side is good for you not only mentally but medically proven to keep you healthy.
Take a good look at what media you pay attention to, what words you use and your inner monolog. Try to think and work with optimistic words so you can set your triggers to be configured to find the good in the world not the bad.
Pay attention to:
- Your Self Talk
- You’re Personal Vocabulary
- The Media you Choose, i.e., TV, Radio, New, Videos
- The Triggers you set
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person…
They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.They are there for the reason you need them to be.
“If you know you have to swallow a frog, swallow it first thing in the morning. If there are two frogs, swallow the big one first.”-Mark Twain
Don’t tell people your goals, You Do Not Talk About Your Goals!
Quote/Theory: When other people take notice of one’s identity-relevant behavioral intentions, one’s performance of the intended behaviors is compromised. This effect occurs both when the intentions are experimenter supplied and when they are self-generated, and is observed in both immediate performance and performance measured over a period of 1 week. It does not emerge when people are not committed to the superordinate identity goal. Other people’s taking notice of one’s identity-relevant intentions apparently engenders a premature sense of completeness regarding the identity goal. Fishbein (1980) and Ajzen (1991) showed that the strength of a behavioral intention determines how well it is translated into behavior (Webb & Sheeran, 2006). Moreover, a substantial literature on moderators of intention-behavior relations (e.g., certainty, temporal stability) has developed (Cooke & Sheeran, 2004; Sheeran, 2002). Interestingly, however, previous research has not explored what psychological processes may intervene between the formation of a behavioral intention and its enactment. The present studies indicate that the simple matter of identity-relevant behavioral intentions becoming public undermines the realization of those intentions.
Book Quotes: Dr. Matthews, a professor in the Department of Psychology in the School of Arts, Humanities and Social Sciences, recruited 267 participants from a wide variety of businesses, organizations, and networking groups throughout the United States and overseas for a study on how goal achievement in the workplace is influenced by writing goals, committing to goal-directed actions, and accountability for those actions. Matthews found that more than 70 percent of the participants who sent weekly updates to a friend reported successful goal achievement (completely accomplished their goal or were more than half way there), compared to 35 percent of those who kept their goals to themselves, without writing them down.
This guy makes a great point: https://collegeinfogeek.com/rule-1-about-your-goals-you-do-not-talk-about-your-goals/
Fear in a Hat
(Intence improv but really useful)
Collect participants “fears” in a hat, tin or bag. Set an appropriate tone, e.g., settled, attentive, caring and serious.
The tone could be set by introducing the topic of fear and explaining how it is normal and natural at this stage of improv exercise that people are experiencing all sorts of anxieties, worries, and fears about what might happen. A good way of starting to deal with these fears is to have them openly acknowledged – lay them on the table, without being subject to ridicule. Having one’s fears expressed and heard almost immediately cuts them in half.
Can be done as the first activity in a program, during the initial stages or well into the program. When used early on in particular, it can help to foster group support and be helpful for alerting the group to issues they may want to respect in a Full Value Contract.
Ask everyone, including the group leaders, to complete this sentence on a piece of paper (anonymously):
“In this trip/group/program, I am [most] afraid that…” or “In this trip/group/program, the worst thing that could happen to me would be…”
Collect the pieces of paper, mix them around, then invite each person to a piece of paper and read about someone’s fear.
One by one, each group member reads out the fear of another group member and elaborates and what he/she feels that person is most afraid of in this group/situation. No one is to comment on what the person says, just listen and move on to the next person.
If the reader doesn’t elaborate much on the fear, then ask them one or two questions. Avoid implying or showing your opinion as to the fear being expressed, unless the person is disrespecting or completely misunderstanding someone’s fear. If the person doesn’t elaborate after one or two questions, leave it and move on.
When all the fears have been read out and elaborated on, then discuss what people felt and noticed.
Can lead into other activities, such as developing a Full Group Contract, personal or team goal settings, course briefings which specifically tackle some of the issues raised, or into other activities in which participants explore their feelings and fears (e.g., see the
Fear in a Hat description at www.nurturingpotential.net)
Likes and dislikes – in two separate hats
Paper and pen/pencil per participant; Hat, tin or bag.
~5 minutes + 1-2 minutes per participant, e.g., 15-20 minutes for a group of 10.
People write personal fears anonymously on pieces of paper which are collected. Then each person reads someone else’s fear to group and explains how the person might feel.
Links to other versions:
This activity involves people in pairs, with one person mirroring the actions and movements of the other person.
Body movement exercises can be most revealing, confronting and rewarding. “Human sculpting via mirroring” brings body movement exploration into the dyad. By reflecting body movements of another, several subtle but complex processes are activated, heightening self- and other-awareness. Immediate non-verbal feedback exercises in the right time and place have the potential to be transformational. Other times this can simply be a fun loosen-upper.
Works with any size group; split into pairs/couples.
Although it is simple, the activity can be confronting and requires experienced leadership and a well chosen moment/sequence/program.
Usually, make sure the social ice is well and truly broken, and that there have been other body movement and physical warmup/stretching exercises, with some laughter and some seriousness.
Offer a demonstration. Invite a volunteer to stand facing you about half a meter apart. The instructor initiates action, with the other person following in “mirror image”.
Make your movements engaging and slow enough for the other person to mime as if they were a full-length mirror.
Also include zany stretches/contortions to get a few laughs, especially facial gymnastics. Include action sequences for tasks like brushing your teeth. The demonstration helps to loosen up conceptions and inhibitions.
In pairs, one person stretches, the other follows. Then swap after some time.
Debrief as you see fit.
Variation: Reverse-mirror image. Try following partner’s movements in reverse-mirror image (i.e., swap left <-> right)
The exercise can be done in different ways to emphasize difference aspects, e.g., for trust-building, drama warmup, ice breaker, etc.
Kirtans (calling – response chanting)
Walking in Sync
- No equipment needed, just a place where people can spread out.
- Total ~ 10-15 minutes.
- Involves people in pairs, with one person mirroring the actions of the other. Stimulates self- and other-awareness.