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The Pyramid for setting and achieving goals.


If you can invest just 137 minutes a day, you have the ability to change your path in life.

Based off all those books in the “Self-help” section of the bookstore, here is the all you need to know about setting and achieving goals without all the nonsense.
Socrates is famous for saying “Know Thyself, ” and that is the most important part of goals. You need to know who you are to know what you need. So, let’s start off with figuring out what your goals are first. Once you set your goals, you need to figure out what healthy habits you can implement into your day that will help you achieve these goals. Don’t go nuts you want to ease into this make three healthy habits you can live with and get used to. You will get to the point where these habits become just that a habit a no brainer and you can then add new habits.
(Note: Most habits form with 30 days on average) Supplemental Video: 3 Questions

Let’s look at the Pyramid from the top down.
So, we set our goals and habits, and we made a note of these (best to use your phone’s notepad or even the screen of your phone) It’s fun to make a Meme out of them or even find a meme on the internet that best fits your goal or habit.

2 x 1 minute; Set an alarm (On vibrate) at 11:11 AM and PM to remind me to look at my list or be present in the moment and compare this moment to what it can be once I achieve my goals. This 11:11 will also become a fun habit, and you won’t need to set the alarm. That’s it!

3 X 5minutes; Plan, Check-in, and Review, When you wake up plan your day. If you don’t have a map, you don’t know where you’re going. It’s always good to have an action plan and when you wake up is the best time to say to yourself “What will I do today to reach my goals?”  A mid-day check in to see how you’re going with your plan and to adjust accordingly, and finally and before bed congratulate you on what you did that day. DO NOT end your day with negative thoughts. It’s like giving yourself a good bedtime story to ease you into a full night’s sleep, and sleep is very important. So, let’s not toss and turn with negative thoughts all night.

30 minutes x 2 you need to take care of your Body and your Mind, lucky for you there is a correlation between 30 minutes of cardiovascular exercise and both learning and outlook. Per the book “Spark” when you perform cardiovascular exercise shortly before a difficult mental task your mind is primed for learning and problem-solving. Cardio can work for you if you want to be at your best for a meeting or during the most difficult part of your work day. A brisk walk can even help. 30 minutes is the magic number for cardio to release the endorphin’s and the BDNF which is touted as “Miracle Grow for the brain.”
Becoming and staying positive is a big part of a healthy long life. Optimistic people have been shown to live longer and healthier lives than people with negative outlooks. Part of this is that an optimistic person tends to be more outgoing and social which promotes a larger social circle and keeps them engaged with society. You can find some uplifting memes, podcasts, music and even a funny friend can do it for you. And if you are clever and want to cut your 137 minutes to 107 minutes of self-improvement time you can multitask. Consider listening to a podcast or watching inspirational videos while getting your cardio in.

1 An hour a day; of learning, something new. Leaders are Learners a great way to look at becoming a lifelong learner. You don’t have to read for an hour you can work on a puzzle or learn something at work that will help you achieve your goals. You just need to use your time in a way to get you closer to your goal. Part of your goal are healthy habits so think about your habits as part of the learning process. If you are trying to lose weight, for example, use the hour of learning to find better ways to eat or exercise. Learn things that will make you a better person.
You CAN NOT use this time during your cardio workout. Your brain is not able to learn as well during the actual workout because the blood supply if being used to feed your muscles and lungs. The BDNF is only after the workout. So, create a reading list or find some videos that you can learn from or manuals for your companies accreditation’s. Take an online class.

I hope this information helps you on your journey to the best you that you can be.

 

Notes from Gen Martin Dempsey talk

Leadership is More Than Giving Orders
Leadership is more than simply ordering people to do something… You see all the memes about the difference between a manager telling orders but a leader leading by example, there is truth to that concept.

Leaders, he said, must get used to the fact that they are going to be asked to do more than one thing at a time. Leaders have to prioritize and junior leaders cannot rely on senior leaders to always set the agenda. “What is a priority today may not be tomorrow, and you have to be prepared for that,” Dempsey said.

Those who follow you actually want you to lead

Realize it’s a privilege to lead, A leader must have a genuine sense of belonging

Make white space on your calendar to get some reading or to check in with the guy in the 4th cube on the right

The more senior you get the more respect you have for your peers

Then you get to the top and you get younger people and bounce ideas and learn

Pick juniors who know how to criticize

Leaders Present Solutions To Problems

He told the students to not simply pass a problem up the chain to the boss, but to pass it with a recommendation. This is just another way to say that leaders have to agile in their thinking and actions.

The chairman discussed risk. “Making decisions as a leader involves risk, and that risk is either manageable or not depending on how you deal with it,” he said. “It’s not a leader’s job to prevent risk, rather it is the leader’s job to enable subordinates to take risks.”

Every action has risk and there is no way to drive risk to zero, he said. Risk should not paralyze action.

Candor is a trait all must have. “If there’s more truth in the hallway than in the meeting room, you’ve got problems,” Dempsey said.

He urged them to speak truth to power, and for leaders to not be afraid of disagreements.

Dempsey stated that competence and character are needed in equal measure. Leaders can’t have one without the other. “Competence will get you to the table, but character is what keeps you at the table,” he said.

Humility Matters

With a warrior’s heart and immigrant spirit and a servant’s soul

 

The chairman also discussed humility. He quoted an old saying that “you can get a lot done in Washington if you don’t care who gets credit.” He called it a truism of life in government. “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking less about yourself,” he said. “You should be optimistic, you should be ambitious, you should be self-confident.”

  • Be approachable. “The best of our leaders are extremely approachable,” he said. Put people at ease and listen to what they have to say.
  • Bever stop learning. Abraham Lincoln wrote long before he became president “I will study and prepare, and perhaps my day will come.”

“Commit to be a life-long learner, and if history calls on you, you will be prepared,”

Dempsey ended with a quote from William Butler Yeats: “Talent perceives differences. Genius perceives unity.”

He said that right now the people of the United States perceive the differences among us all too easily. “You can’t miss the differences that separate us,” he said. “Genius perceives unity. Genius is what allows us to come together. That’s what this country does. That’s what sets us apart.”

“That’s the genius of the American Dream,” he said. “You need to see genius, meaning you need to find unity. And if you do that, this country will be fine.”

Older Wiser and should not be forgotten

I had a gig today where I played an older person and it made me think of my father… here is something I had on my mind. I had a mentor that one day said he was trying to be relevant and it never hit him just how relevant he was. Wisdom needs to be appreciated especially by those who have it and don’t even realize it.

Why People come into our life.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person…

“When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.”Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.They may teach you something you have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.”LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.”— Unknown